{"id":222,"date":"2019-01-29T06:15:02","date_gmt":"2019-01-29T06:15:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blsandbox1.wpengine.com\/?p=222"},"modified":"2019-05-21T11:45:08","modified_gmt":"2019-05-21T17:45:08","slug":"how-to-rebuild-trust-in-a-relationship-after-porn-addiction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifestartherapy.com\/how-to-rebuild-trust-in-a-relationship-after-porn-addiction\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Rebuild Trust In A Relationship [After Porn Addiction]"},"content":{"rendered":"
Trust is something that must be earned in a relationship over time. Whether you\u2019re interacting with a spouse, partner, or friend, trust develops over a series of incidences where promises are kept and both people are able to become more vulnerable and open. This type of trust is crucial to building and maintaining a strong relationship. Without it, the foundation of the relationship crumbles, and suspicion, doubt, and hurt can take its place.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re looking to fix trust issues in a relationship, especially due to\u00a0porn addiction<\/a>, you\u2019ll need to invest time and effort. Like planting a seed and watching it grow, it takes patience to allow trust to be fostered in any relationship after it has been compromised. Regaining trust may feel like you\u2019re starting over completely in your relationship, but it is the most important part of a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n Partners of someone with a porn addiction can feel intense betrayal and trauma. In many ways, porn addiction is a form of cheating, since it\u2019s an avenue for sexual arousal with someone other than your spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend. To rebuild trust in a relationship, act as if you\u2019ve cheated on your significant other. This is the level of seriousness required to fix the betrayal that comes along with porn addiction.<\/p>\n On the flip side, the person with the porn addiction may feel guilt and shame for their actions. Both the porn addict and the partner can benefit from practicing\u00a0steps to stabilize the relationship<\/a>, including:<\/p>\n Those with a porn addiction usually have to lie to keep their addiction a secret. If you\u2019re looking to rebuild trust in a relationship after lying, you\u2019ll need to recommit to being completely truthful going forward. You\u2019ll need to take full responsibility for your actions and ask forgiveness for your wrongdoings. To show a sincere change of heart moving forward, you\u2019ll also need to set new boundaries that demonstrate recommitment to truthfulness. These boundaries might include transparency with email and cell phones, setting internet restrictions, and more.<\/p>\n Marriage is a sacred space where spouses should feel total trust and commitment to each other. When that trust is removed, it can be a long road to rebuild. But when both parties want to put in the effort, it can be done. Spouses of porn addicts can help to rebuild trust by educating themselves about the issue and\u00a0providing support to new habits<\/a>. Both partners should establish a self-care routine and seek counseling to deal with the grief and pain.<\/p>\n Rebuilding trust in marriage does not have a specific timeline. This will be a non-linear path with many ups and downs. If you\u2019re seeking to rebuild trust with a spouse or other loved one, you should not compare yourselves to anyone else. The path to trust is completely dependent on your personalities and specific life experiences. Be patient if progress seems to slow or has dips and turns along the way.<\/p>\n No matter the reason for building trust in a relationship, there are basic tools that can help facilitate positive change. Even when the path seems impossible, using these tools will improve your situation:<\/p>\n Sometimes rebuilding trust is easier with the help of a third party. A therapist or counselor can help identify areas that need change and offer professional advice to improve relationships. Couples\u2019 therapy is particularly beneficial to help rebuild trust in the marriage since it allows partners to have a tool for improved communication. If a partner is unwilling to join in on therapy, individual counseling can still be beneficial.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n If there was only one way to rebuild trust, it could be boiled down to open communication. When two people are able to keep channels of communication open, their relationship will flourish. There are many\u00a0ways you can improve communication<\/a>\u00a0with a spouse or other loved one. Communication is truly a skill that needs to be honed over time. Some of the keys to better communication include spending more time listening, taking more time to formulate a response, and recapping what you think the other person is saying.<\/p>\n Adding secure limits will improve any relationship and foster trust. Boundaries can bring security and make both partners feel in better control. These rules and limits protect the relationship by adding clear expectations and giving both partners ownership of their actions. Going to bed at the same time or setting up a weekly evaluation are some healthy boundaries that can rebuild trust after porn addiction.<\/p>\n If you or someone you love is seeking to rebuild trust in a relationship after porn addiction, LifeStar Therapy can help. LifeStar\u2019s intensive outpatient program has helped countless individuals recover from sexual addiction of all kinds. Download our\u00a0free eBook<\/a>\u00a0to get on the path to healing trust and relationships in your life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Trust is something that must be earned in a relationship over time. Whether you\u2019re interacting with a spouse, partner, or friend, trust develops over a series of incidences where promises are kept and both people are able to become more vulnerable and open. This type of trust is crucial to building and maintaining a strong relationship. Without it, the foundation of the relationship crumbles, and suspicion, doubt, and hurt can take its place. Fixing Trust Issues If you\u2019re looking to fix trust issues in a relationship, especially due to\u00a0porn addiction, you\u2019ll need to invest time and effort. Like planting a […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Rebuild Trust<\/h2>\n
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Rebuilding Trust After Lying<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Rebuilding Trust in Marriage<\/strong><\/h3>\n
How Long Will It Take?<\/h2>\n
Tools for Moving Forward<\/h2>\n
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Therapy for Couples and Individuals<\/h2>\n
Open Communication<\/h2>\n
Healthy Boundaries<\/h2>\n
Download the LifeStar Therapy eBook<\/h2>\n